Category Archive: sex

Mar 05 2012

Paypal Prohibits "Obscene" Content

No, I don’t write erotica with themes of incest, pseudo-incest, rape for titillation, underage sex or bestiality. However, even though erotic fiction with those themes does not appeal to me, there is a market for it. A huge market for it. And just like other readers, if the content of the story does not amuse me, I don’t read it. Simple as that.


But now, PayPal is cracking down on publishers and websites that publishes and sales said books. Paypal warns if publisher continue to sale those books with “obscene content,” Paypal will deactivate publisher’s account. You may wonder why a company would threaten to deactivate so many publisher accounts like Smashwords.

“Paypal doesn’t want to have to pay Visa and MC for carrying “high risk” accounts on their books.” Erotica writer Selena Kitt writes on her blog. And what’s considered high risk for Paypal? Erotic books that contain the themes listed above. “Sites that carry high-risk material have to pay the high-risk costs of doing business. If you’re going through Paypal, you don’t have to pay that. Until Paypal catches you. And then they insist you take down your high-risk content or lose your account.”

So it’s the major credit card companies behind it all.

As a writer of erotica and erotic romance what I take form this is the major credit card companies saying… “We’re not supporting your icky imagination and if you force me to associate my name with your obscene fiction, then we can’t be friends anymore.” … That’s how I read it If it’s really about the money or not.

No matter my personal views on erotic books with those “questionable” themes (incest, pseudo-incest, rape for titillation, underage sex or bestiality), they’re still legal to write about. I am not a person to condone the suppression of published material. We’re adults. We should be able to write, read, and buy the kind of fiction we desire without someone or some group making it difficult due to their tastes.
Mark Coker, founder and CEO of Smashwords, had this to say about Paypal’s crackdown. “PayPal is asking us to censor legal fiction. Regardless of how one views topics of rape, bestiality and incest, these topics are pervasive in mainstream fiction. We believe this crackdown is really targeting erotica writers. This is unfair, and it marks a slippery slope. We don’t want credit card companies or financial institutions telling our authors what they can write and what readers can read. Fiction is fantasy. It’s not real. It’s legal.”

It concerns me. What will they target next in erotica?

Gay sex? Threesomes? Sex out of wedlock? Erotica in general?

What do you think about the crackdown?

Mar 01 2012

Questions I’ve Been Asked Pertaining to Writing & the Candid Answers: Part 1

I’ve been asked a variety of questions over the years. Some questions been asked multiple times, some are a little odd, some are simple and only people not involved in the publishing business would seek the answer.  So below are some of those questions with simple, detailed and honest answers.


Why don’t you write a book about your family or how you grew up?

I get this question mostly from my family or those I grew up with.

Simple answer:

No one cares about anyone else’s lives unless they’re celebrities or had a truly unique upbringing.

Detailed answer:

Frankly, I like writing plots from my imagination more. Although I believe my life story may have been a bit dysfunctional and entertaining to some (who doesn’t think they’re upbringing was dysfunctional?), I also believe some stories are best told to a therapist and not the public. Besides, who are we that anyone would care anyway?


I could write it for the family instead of publishing it for the public. Still a possibility is that the people included in the story won’t appreciate how I represent them? This is the sole reason I don’t create characters from true life friends and relatives.

Which brings me to …

Why don’t you write a book about my life?

Simple answer:
We all have problems, secrets, and crazy things happen to us in our lives. Why are you so special?

Detailed answer:
See detailed answer above.

Why do you write about threesomes and sex?

Simple answer:
I enjoy writing about unconventional sexual relationships.  Also, what adult doesn’t enjoy sex, even in fiction?

Detailed answer:  
Threesomes are a hot theme (hot as in spicy and popular) in erotica and erotic romances. There is a huge market for it which means there are lots and lots of people who enjoy reading ménages. It’s sexy, fun and a great way to engage in your fantasies without consequences. I can say the same about fictional sex in general. It doesn’t matter if I’m writing or reading about it, I’m entertained either way.

Why do you write about Caucasian characters?

I think this question is one that comes from ignorance. Or a person assuming you’re supposed to stick to your own kind even creatively.

Simple answer:
My stories are primarily about people, and if those people happen to be diverse so be it. It not required that I write for a specific community even if I’m placed in that group. I write for the communities I choose to write for. And I enjoy being unique, unpredictable and eccentric.

Detailed answer:
The heroes in my stories usually take on physical traits and other characteristics that I’m attracted to. And who they’re attracted to works well for that character, even if they’re attracted to Caucasians, African Americans, other men, none or all the above.  It’s part of why writing what you love works so well for me.

Why do you write about homosexual characters?

See answers to question above.

Later I will post part 2 which delves more into questions I receive about publishing. Are there questions that are not listed above that you would like the candid answer to?